Just Say “No” to Bullies

Published September 30, 2010 by LS Murphy

Remember when bullies just pushed you in the schoolyard and took your money? Bullying has hit new heights with the internet. Cyber attacks are getting far too common now. Mainly because it’s so easy to do.

The question is: Why don’t these kids understand that this is WRONG?

The most recent victim of the cyber bully was Tyler Clementi, a freshman at Rutgers University. According to news reports, Tyler’s roommate recorded through his web-cam Tyler have a sexual encounter with another boy. Then proceeded to blast it to his friends via iChat.

Now, Tyler is dead. The humiliation sent him over the edge and he leapt from the George Washington Bridge.

Why would anyone do this to another human being? Did the roommate really think it was funny to humiliate Tyler this way? Was there some grudge between the two boys after only one month of college?

We hear about teenagers being cruel to one another and I’m certain some of us have experienced bullying to a certain degree. That doesn’t stop the shock when it goes too far.

What can we do to stop it? Talk to our kids. Explain why this is wrong. Other than that, we have to trust their judgement.

Tyler didn’t deserve this. Nobody does.

Unfortunately, it won’t be the last time we hear about something like this happening.


3 comments on “Just Say “No” to Bullies

  • It’s quite sad really and the increase of suicides because of the victim being harassed because he/she is gay? It’s terrible. I’m not really sure about getting into a bully’s mind when I think about situations like these, especially with one incident with some of the bullies in one case of the suicides, the bullies didn’t know and it’s really… hard to understand why they did that.
    Either way, hopefully things might get better, it may not, but I hope it will.

  • Bullies have become more powerful with the internet. When I was growing up, it was limited to relentless teasing and trying to make someone’s school life miserable. My dad would have beat my behind if he ever found out that I was taking place in bullying of any kind. It really starts with the parents. Parents who don’t care or think it’s great that their kids are the “tough” ones. Parents who dismiss their child’s behavior. Parents who take part in it in themselves – there was that mom who got prosecuted because she created a fake profile on MySpace for a guy and suckered this poor young girl into “falling” for her before destroying her. It’s such a sad commentary on the state of our society.

    I was listening to the radio on my way to teach yesterday morning and the station was dealing with bullies. They had parents calling in. 9 out of 10 got no help from the schools at all. THAT has to change. One mother took matters into her own hands. She came to the school and followed the bully to his mother’s car. She asked the woman if they could work it out together as parents but the woman gave her attitude. So she turned to the boy and said, “Mess with my son again and I’m going to beat YOUR MOM up.” That kid never messed with her son again. It’s sad to have to resort to that kind of a tactic to get a resolution.

    My heart goes out to Tyler’s friends and family. As for the parents of the bullies – how sad to have everyone see that you didn’t teach your child RESPECT (for all life, for differences, for people).

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